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DIY Shabbat

The meaning of the Sabbath is to celebrate time rather than space. Six days a week we live under the tyranny of things of space; on the Sabbath we try to become attuned to holiness in time. It is a day on which we are called upon to share in what is eternal in time, to turn from the results of creation to the mystery of creation; from the world of creation to the creation of the world.

Abraham Joshua Heschel

Shabbat is Judaism's best idea.

In a world that tries to make us into human doings, Shabbat comes to remind us that we are human beings.

Shabbat is a respite from the world - a time to step back from the chatter of commerce and do the things we really need to do - laugh, sing, connect, give thanks. 

There are many ways to celebrate Shabbat, but one of the best ways to make Shabbat "happen" is simply  with a meal - some friends or family, some wine, some food and some music.

 

What we have here are some of the basic rituals of shabbat dinner - these are resources, so feel free to add, subtract or change in any way you see fit. You cannot do this wrong.  

This video from our friends at Mem Global gives an overview; details below...

Bring that Light Inside - Candles

Shabbat is a period inserted into an otherwise endless run-on sentence. It lets us know when it is time to stop and take a breath. 


Lighting the candles, taking a deep breath and trying to bring some of that light inside is how we mark the transition from regular time to Shabbat time. Whatever it is that has us tied up in knots- work, finances, email, the future - this is the moment when we let it go. 

The candles are a way of delighting in Shabbat and marking it as "special" - mac and cheese dinners on Tuesday nights are rarely adorned with candlelight.

Any candle and candlestick will do - you can get plain white candles in most supermarkets. They are usually lit right before sundown, in the same room where you will eat the Shabbat meal. And you can light any number, though people usually light two, or you can have one for every person who is coming to Shabbat dinner.

Once the candles are lit, people generally wave their hands in front of them three times to bring the light of the candles into their eyes.

The Blessings

בָּרוּך אַתָּה אַדָנָי אֱלהֵינוּ מֶלֶך הָעוֹלָם אַשֶׁר קִדְשָנוּ בְּמִצְוֹתָיו וְצִוָנוּ לְהַדְלִיק נֵר שֶל שַבָּת

Baruch a-ta A-do-nay Elo-hei-nu me-lech ha-o-lam a-sher ki-dee-sha-nu bi-mitz-vo-tav vi-tzi-va-noo li-had-leekner shel Sha-bbat.

Blessed are You, God-of-us-All, Sovereign of the Cosmos, who has sanctified us with Divine commandments, and commanded us to kindle the light of Shabbat.

We Are All Someone's Child - Blessing

We are all connected to generations long gone and yet to come, and we all long for ease in those relationships. This is a blessing that invokes kindness and grace in all our our relationships - with our friends, with our family and with divinity, within and without. 

The Blessing

 יְבָרֶכְךָ יהוה, וְיִשְׁמְרֶךָ  /  יָאֵר יהוה פָּנָיו אֵלֶיךָ, וִיחֻנֶּךָּ  /  יִשָּׂא יהוה פָּנָיו אֵלֶיךָ, וְיָשֵׂם לְךָ שָׁלוֹם

Y'varechecha Adonai V'yish'm'recha  /  Ya'er Adonai panav eilecha vichuneka  /  Yisa Adonai panav eilecha v'yasem l'cha shalom. 

May The Holy One bless you and guard you  /  May The Holy One show you favor and be gracious to you  /  May The Holy One show you kindness and grant you peace.

Yevarechacha Gaby Meyer
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Would you like wine with that? - Kiddush

The Psalmist points out that "wine gladdens the heart" (Ps 104:14) and wine is a powerful symbol of celebration at this most festive meal of the week. Traditionally, the kiddush cup is filled to near-overflowing to emphasize that Shabbat is a time overflowing with delight. The wine of kiddush is also the first thing we taste once Shabbat has started, so that we begin Shabbat with happiness and abundance.

FYI: While many people use kosher wine for kiddush, there is no need to use thick, sweet Manischewitz wine if you don't want to. There are plenty of great kosher wines on the market that are fine for kiddush, and locally, both Artisan and Viscount carry them.

The Blessing

בלחש: וַיְהִי עֶֽרֶב וַיְהִי בֹֽקֶר

יוֹם הַשִּׁשִּׁי. וַיְכֻלּוּ הַשָּׁמַֽיִם וְהָאָֽרֶץ וְכָל צְבָאָם. וַיְכַל אֱלֹהִים בַּיּוֹם הַשְּׁבִיעִי מְלַאכְתּוֹ אֲשֶׁר עָשָׂה, וַיִּשְׁבֹּת בַּיּוֹם הַשְּׁבִיעִי, מִכָּל מְלַאכְתּוֹ אֲשֶׁר עָשָׂה. וַיְבָֽרֶךְ אֱלֹהִים אֶת יוֹם הַשְּׁבִיעִי וַיְקַדֵּשׁ אֹתוֹ, כִּי בוֹ שָׁבַת מִכָּל מְלַאכְתּוֹ, אֲשֶר בָּרָא אֱלֹהִים לַעֲשׂוֹת.

סַבְרִי מָרָנָן וְרַבָּנָן וְרַבּוֹתַי - בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְיָ אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ מֶֽלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם, בּוֹרֵא פְּרִי הַגָּֽפֶן.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְיָ אֱלֹהֵֽינוּ מֶֽלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם, אֲשֶׁר קִדְּשָֽׁנוּ בְּמִצְוֹתָיו וְרָֽצָה בָֽנוּ, וְשַׁבַּת קָדְשׁוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה וּבְרָצוֹן הִנְחִילָֽנוּ זִכָּרוֹן לְמַעֲשֵׂה בְרֵאשִׁית, כִּי הוּא יוֹם תְּחִלָּה לְמִקְרָאֵי קֹֽדֶשׁ, זֵֽכֶר לִיצִיאַת מִצְרָֽיִם, כִּי בָֽנוּ בָחַֽרְתָּ וְאוֹתָֽנוּ קִדַּֽשְׁתָּ מִכָּל הָעַמִּים, וְשַׁבַּת קָדְשְׁךָ בְּאַהֲבָה וּבְרָצוֹן הִנְחַלְתָּֽנוּ. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְיָ, מְקַדֵּשׁ הַשַּׁבָּת.

[in a whisper] Vay'hi erev vay'hi voker yom hashishi.

Vay'chulu hashamayim v'hararetz v'cho tz'va-am. Vat'chal Elohim bayom hash'vi-I m'lachta asher asta. Vatishbot bayom hash'vi-I mikol m'lachta ahser asta. Vat'varech Elohim et yom hash'vi-I vat'kadesish oto, ki vo shavta mikol m'lachta asher bar'a Elohim la-asot.

Baruch atah adonai elohaynu melech ha'olam boray pri hagafen.

Baruch atah adonai elohaynu melech ha'olam ahser kidshanu b'mitzvotav v'ratazah vanu, ushabat kodsho b'ahava u'v'ratzon hinchilanu, zikaron l'ma'aseh v'resishit, ki hu yom t'chila l'mikra'ei kodesh zeicher litzi-at Mitzrayim, ki vanu vacharta, v'otanu kidashta im kol ha'amim v'shabbat kodshecha b'ahava uv'ratzon hinchaltanu. Baruch atah adonai m'kadesh hashabat.

 

And there was evening and there was morning: the sixth day. Heaven, earth, and all their beings were finished.

The Holy One completed on the seventh day the work that had been done, and ceased upon the seventh day from all the work that had been done. The Holy One blessed the seventh day and set it apart. For on it the Holy One had ceased from all the work that had been done in carrying out the Creation."

With the permission of this company:

Blessed are you, The Boundless One our God, the Source of All Life, who creates the fruit of the vine.

Praised are you, Adonai our God, Sovereign of the Universe, whose mitzvot uncover the holiness of our lives, cherishing us through the gift of Your holy Shabbat, granted lovingly, gladly, as a reminder of creation. 

It is the first among our days of sacred assembly which recall the Exodus from Mitzrayim, the place of narrowness and constriction. Thus you have chosen us, endowing us with holiness by granting Your holy Shabbat lovingly and gladly. Praised are you Adonai, who hallows the Shabbat.

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