Emotionallyintelligent weddings
I work with couples who are interested in strengthening their communication skills, regardless of gender, sexual orientation or faith background.
Weddings are beautiful and last a day.
Marriages are complicated and last a lifetime.
Marriages are premised on the wonderful, but also bizarre, assumption that two people who are a bundle of experiences and impulses can stick together over a lifetime.
There is no script, and no two marriages are the same.
There are, however, some common challenges that relationships entering a more serious chapter face. How can we communicate deeply? How do we think about the parents we come from and the parents we might become - or not? How can we talk honestly about money and class, sex, ambition and expectations? Can we talk about gender norms – the ones we hate and the ones we actually sort of like?
“We had an incredibly positive experience with Rabbi Brent from the very first call. His warm, positive energy immediately drew us in, and we knew we were in good hands.”
~ Tess and Will
Traditionally, to prepare for marriage, Jews have written out the commitments they were making to each other and the steps they would take when – not if - things got hard. Called a ketubah, these contracts set out the terms of each individual marriage. Thousands of years ago, we lived in a world where only one gender had legal and financial power, and commitments were made in goat-value.
Thankfully, we live in a very different world, but the fundamentals of marriage remain the same: each marriage is different, and everyone is well served to think about what commitments they want to make when – not if – things get hard.
“We truly don’t even know where to begin with Rabbi Brent. Hiring him for our wedding and pre-marital counseling was perhaps one of the best decisions we made for our big day. We were a bit skeptical in the beginning, but as soon as we had our first meeting with Rabbi Brent, we knew we made the right decision. He went from being a complete stranger to us, to feeling like a true friend by the time of our wedding.”
~ Ronni and Dan
I work with couples who are interested in diving deep into their relationship together, regardless of gender, sexual orientations or faith backgrounds.
Of course, we work together to make sure the wedding day is beautiful, but most of our time together is spent preparing the ketubah so your marriage is strong. The Jewish tradition provides some framing language, but the heart of the ketubah is the way each partner wants their relationship to grow because they are married.
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If you'd like to explore working with Rabbi Brent further, please take a look at these testimonials, and if this approach feels right for you, please use the form below to be in touch.
“Working with Rabbi Brent was one of the best decisions we made for our wedding and our marriage. Not only did working with him lead to an amazing wedding day, but our many meetings together before the ceremony helped prepare us for the lifetime of marriage. Working with him to craft our own custom Ketubah text was so meaningful and we also can’t speak highly enough about how wonderful a job he did on our wedding day. We’ve received feedback from numerous guests, both Jewish and not, about how great Rabbi Brent was and how the ceremony was both personal and accessible. We are SO glad we chose to work with Rabbi Brent and would do it over again in a heartbeat.”
~ Perry and Eli
